Situation: So let's say you are in your twenties and you have come to the realization that your group of good friends is becoming smaller. You may wonder if there is something wrong, but let me tell you that this is completely normal and a topic I have recently discussed with a few of my friends! Why is this a common occurrence? Well, after college you are getting settled in the real world and starting your own life. In college it was easy to make new friends and maintain existing friendships because there was a lot of free time and most of your friends lived close by! After college maintaining a friendship is no longer convenient, because you actually have to schedule a time to hang out. Working 40+ hours a week while handling other life situations can keep a person very busy! So, a decision must be made, either hit the gym after work or attempt to make/keep friends.
However, a dwindling group of friends is not always a bad thing, it just means you can focus on the people who add meaning to your life. Physical distance begins to show you who really cares, let me tell ya, distance does not break a true friendship. This is a time in your life when you need to be associating with people whose passions and goals are similar to your own. You begin to realize who has your best interest in mind and who does not. You don't want to be in a one-sided romantic relationship, correct? Well you shouldn't be in a one-sided friendship. This is a time to eliminate those who do not enhance your life in any way. If you have a friend that does not encourage you to be a better person, then that person does not need to be in your life. So what is a true friend?
A true friend will be proud of your accomplishments, not jealous.
A true friend will make time for you.
A true friend will tell you when it's time to move on. They do not want you to settle.
A true friend may be disappointed, but will never judge.
A true friend will listen to you complain and then tell you all of the positive things you are overlooking.
A true friend will uplift you, not belittle you.
A true friend will never try to "one up" you.
(The list can go on and on)
Treasure those who care about you and want the best for you. Just think about it... who is benefiting from a one-sided friendship? Downsizing isn't such a bad thing.
Be sassy. Be sweet. Be you.
Millennials are well aware of the meaning behind a picture being Insta’ Worthy, or if something has or has not been made Facebook Official. This society is immersed in the impact of tweets, favorites, double-taps, likes, shares, and followers.
We are consumed by this need to feel desired by those around us, so we turn to social media networks to satisfy this craving. Often times we attempt to appease the craving by posting something with hopes it will get a high number of shares/likes/favorites, while it may fill the void for the time being, social media is damaging our self-worth. Social media is a filter. In essence, you see what others allow you to see. Social media is a “perfected” version of people’s lives. It is not an accurate reflection of their daily struggles, it is not a reflection of their personal vices, it is not a reflection of their arguments with a loved one, it is not a reflection of their efforts to find the Lord, it is not a reflection of their disappointment of not finding a job or a potential spouse… yet we view these “perfect” posts and contemplate our own happiness.
Personally, I noticed that if I stay off of social media for an entire day I am happier than if I were being constantly updated by my social media enthusiasts. Step back and do not allow yourself to be fixed on the feeling that your life does not match up to those around you, because it does. EVERYONE has their own struggles, they just choose not to broadcast it to their friends on social media. A picture may say a thousand words, but keep in mind that photo displayed online was carefully posed so that it would portray a certain message. Let’s be real, the pictures we post on Facebook, Instagram and even Snapchat were not taken with the first snap of our camera. More than likely the photo was taken a few times until a desired look was achieved. Be careful not to compare your REAL life to the “perfected” lives of others on social media.
Be Sassy. Be Sweet. Be You.
Hi Sassy Ladies,
Ah! I apologize for the lack of posting! With the craziness of completing the grad program, graduating, moving, and now avidly looking for a job that will begin my career, I seem to have neglected blogging a little. However, I do promise that new posts will be coming ASAP! :)
Be Sassy. Be Sweet. Be You
Classy, sassy, but oh so sweet!