Love at First Sight

This concept of "love at first sight" has completely skewed the true meaning of love, because "love at first sight" does not exist!

For starters-- you cannot be in love with someone you met one, two, three weeks ago. My darling this is not love! It is pure infatuation, fascination, obsession, liking --- getting caught up in your own feelings. 

To be "in love" with someone takes time! You cannot truly know someone in 3 weeks, 4 months or even a year's time. Now, I'm not saying you can't be in love with someone by then, but you must truly know the person before saying you're in love with them. People are constantly changing-- my parents have been married 27 years and are still learning new things about each other!

Before telling someone you love them-- you should be able to answer most questions about their personality, background, likes, dislikes, fears, and quirks. You should know where they shine, nervous habits, what desires they may have -- And not by simply asking them, but through witnessing it yourself. True love happens when the infatuation starts to die off, you've had your first argument, you've seen them at their worst and you find yourself caring more about what happens to them than you care about what happens to yourself. 

If someone seems perfect--- chances are you don't know them very well!! If they are "perfect" you don't love them because you don't see them for who they really are, which is their flaws. Love is seeing their flaws and loving them unconditionally anyway. The thing is-- no body is perfect! 

As much as I LOVE the movie Dear John-- the quote "two weeks together, that's all it took, two weeks for me to fall in love with you." Is complete madness!! You cannot fall in love with someone in two weeks! Love is genuine, from the heart, unconditional, selfless, kind, knowing someone and truly accepting them for who they are... and that cannot come in a few days time. 




Be Sassy. Be Sweet. Be You.

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