​Be the Woman Who Catches His Heart, Not a Girl Who Catches His Attention

A girl who tries to catch a man’s attention will only last as long as his attention span. AKA honey you’re going to be gone real quick. Have respect for yourself-- you can do this in the way you speak, behave, and dress.

Stop the gossip, backstabbing, drama, and vulgar language. Nothing good comes from those things and in the end it’s only a reflection of your own characteristics. Basically it makes you look bad.

If you’re over the age of 25 and get sloppy drunk every weekend what does that say about you? What does that say about your ambitions, career, and self-respect? If you cannot handle your alcohol I’m sure there are a lot more things you cannot handle. Grow up. I’m not saying you shouldn’t go out and have a good time. Because let's be real, if you're over the age of 25, single, and have a full-time job sometimes wine (and vodka) is your best friend. What I am saying is don’t act like a college girl who just turned 21 on a Thursday night, doesn’t have a Friday morning class, and just broke up with her long-time boyfriend. There comes a time when you need to learn how to manage your alcohol and that time is after college.

Stop posting pictures with your boobs hanging out. You really think a man wants his mom to go to your Facebook page and see that? NO! You really think a man wants his woman all hanging out and showing the world her valuables? NO! Yeah, you’re going to get a whole bunch of likes, but girl please--- he’s thinking with something other than the head on top of his shoulders. And that attention won’t last.

 
How can you be THE woman who catches his heart? Now, I am not implying that the following list is the key to winning over a man’s heart, but rather it's the beginning of becoming a woman who is independent, irresistible, loving and respected.

Be sweet. It’s that simple.

Be genuine. It’s so rare to find a genuine person, be that rare gem.

Be honest. These days, people will tell you exactly what you want to hear in hopes for some sort of self-gain. STOP. Just be straight forward-- it’s a very valued quality.

Know when to let go. Some things are just not meant to be.

Move on. Holding on to the past will only inhibit you from enjoying the present.

Don’t get even. This goes along with “move on”, trying to get back at someone for something they did to you will only bring you down to their level. Be the bigger person and move on with your life.

You are capable of far more than you know. Just apply yourself and go after what you want.

Make something of yourself! Do not wait around for an opportunity to come your way. Get ahold of the reigns in your life and take charge. You control your outcome.

Love yourself. You will never truly be happy in a relationship if you do not love or value yourself first.

Do not rely on another individual for your own happiness because honestly, another person will not fulfill your needs. A HUMAN will never fulfill you. So to expect another person to make you happy is setting them up for failure. To put that much responsibility on to another person will weigh them down, and you don’t want that… right?
 
All in all, strive to be a woman of substance. If you're attracting the wrong kind of men and you are not being treated the way you deserve, take a step back to examine how you live your life. Are you looking for attention or are you looking to be respected? The choice is yours.

Be Sassy. Be Sweet. Be You.

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