A girl who tries to catch a man’s attention will only last as long as his attention span. AKA honey you’re going to be gone real quick. Have respect for yourself-- you can do this in the way you speak, behave, and dress.

Stop the gossip, backstabbing, drama, and vulgar language. Nothing good comes from those things and in the end it’s only a reflection of your own characteristics. Basically it makes you look bad.

If you’re over the age of 25 and get sloppy drunk every weekend what does that say about you? What does that say about your ambitions, career, and self-respect? If you cannot handle your alcohol I’m sure there are a lot more things you cannot handle. Grow up. I’m not saying you shouldn’t go out and have a good time. Because let's be real, if you're over the age of 25, single, and have a full-time job sometimes wine (and vodka) is your best friend. What I am saying is don’t act like a college girl who just turned 21 on a Thursday night, doesn’t have a Friday morning class, and just broke up with her long-time boyfriend. There comes a time when you need to learn how to manage your alcohol and that time is after college.

Stop posting pictures with your boobs hanging out. You really think a man wants his mom to go to your Facebook page and see that? NO! You really think a man wants his woman all hanging out and showing the world her valuables? NO! Yeah, you’re going to get a whole bunch of likes, but girl please--- he’s thinking with something other than the head on top of his shoulders. And that attention won’t last.

 
How can you be THE woman who catches his heart? Now, I am not implying that the following list is the key to winning over a man’s heart, but rather it's the beginning of becoming a woman who is independent, irresistible, loving and respected.

Be sweet. It’s that simple.

Be genuine. It’s so rare to find a genuine person, be that rare gem.

Be honest. These days, people will tell you exactly what you want to hear in hopes for some sort of self-gain. STOP. Just be straight forward-- it’s a very valued quality.

Know when to let go. Some things are just not meant to be.

Move on. Holding on to the past will only inhibit you from enjoying the present.

Don’t get even. This goes along with “move on”, trying to get back at someone for something they did to you will only bring you down to their level. Be the bigger person and move on with your life.

You are capable of far more than you know. Just apply yourself and go after what you want.

Make something of yourself! Do not wait around for an opportunity to come your way. Get ahold of the reigns in your life and take charge. You control your outcome.

Love yourself. You will never truly be happy in a relationship if you do not love or value yourself first.

Do not rely on another individual for your own happiness because honestly, another person will not fulfill your needs. A HUMAN will never fulfill you. So to expect another person to make you happy is setting them up for failure. To put that much responsibility on to another person will weigh them down, and you don’t want that… right?
 
All in all, strive to be a woman of substance. If you're attracting the wrong kind of men and you are not being treated the way you deserve, take a step back to examine how you live your life. Are you looking for attention or are you looking to be respected? The choice is yours.

Be Sassy. Be Sweet. Be You.

Hi ladies! So sorry I haven’t written much lately… over the past few months I’ve written 10+ blogs, but before finishing, I saved it and closed out of the document. It just didn’t feel right. Contemplating a message/subject has been difficult. However there has been something on my mind lately so I thought I’d write about it and hopefully some of you can relate.

The other morning I went to church and to be honest I was not fully invested. During church I caught myself daydreaming-- going in and out of listening and daydreaming… listening and daydreaming.

So awful, ugh I know!

Anyway the daydreams were silly and insignificant. They were about something that could happen in the future, but more than likely will never happen. Nonetheless I picked up on some very important key points of the priest’s message. He talked about being tuned in to the “now” which, let’s be honest, I was not doing. He also spoke a lot about trust and clarity.

Idk about you, but I often attempt to “figure out” what God is doing in my life and lately I’ve been praying for clarity. Some days my thoughts sound something like this: “If I could just understand why I am struggling in this aspect then life would be better” or “If I just understood why I haven’t met a great guy, then I could relax and just wait until HTB (husband to be) comes along.” I struggle with enjoying the single life. I have a difficult time trusting that God will provide me with the man that I’ve always dreamed of meeting. There are times where it’s easier to trust than others, but a lot of the time I struggle. The struggle goes something like this: It’s discouraging when you meet an attractive man only to find out he's a total womanizer. Especially considering that all of your friends are married/engaged/soon-to-be engaged while you’re stuck dealing with nonsense that should be kept in high school. Then you begin to question: Are there “normal” men that appreciate the sophistication of a woman? Are there “normal” men that have good intentions? Are there attractive men who are humble and are not focused on ‘getting with’ a bunch of women? Are there strong men who can walk away from an unhealthy relationship? Where are these men?!

Anyway the priest spoke about how trust doesn’t have to prove itself--you just do it--just trust. He said the last thing you should be praying for is clarity, instead you just need to trust. Trust that God is working wonders in your life. Trust that His plan is more amazing than your own. Stop worrying about what is to happen or what could happen, trust that it will happen and live in what currently is happening.

I felt as if God was jumping up and down, waving his arms trying to get my attention. After church I sat in my vehicle and continued to replay the priest’s message in my mind. I then decided to read over my morning devotional and as I turned the page the first sentence reads “Understanding will never bring you peace.” BOOM! There He goes again, trying to get my attention. God was talking to me in all kinds of ways that morning! The devotional goes on to talk about how, as humans, we try to figure things out in order to gain a sense of clarity in our lives. However, in this world we will always be faced with some sort of problem, as soon as we figure out the problem and gain a sense of clarity another is presented. So instead of searching for understanding and clarity, we should be seeking God. WOW!

Ya know what, it’s hard. It’s really really hard, but the Christian walk is not easy. Thankfully God is here to walk with us and guide us on this long and winding path. So remember, pray for trust instead of clarity. We will never be able to fully understand why God allows things to happen, but we must trust that He knows what He is doing :)

Be Sassy. Be Sweet. Be You.