Very often I see girls getting caught up in the idea that they need to behave, dress, or talk a certain way to get a guys attention. Stop trying to find a boyfriend. Stop trying to act a certain way because you think that's what guys like. They do not necessarily prefer blondes over red-heads, or girls who go to the tanning bed over girls that don't. Stop trying to buy clothes you think guys will prefer, because in the end, all you will be hurting is yourself.
Great things often happen when you least expect them, so instead of focusing on getting a boyfriend, focus on things that make you happy. Things that make YOU unique! Focus on your education!!! Guys will hurt you, confuse you, annoy you, woo you, and just overall drive you crazy, but if you put as much focus in your education as you do them, you can be extremely successful! Guys will come and go in your life, but your education will be with you forever. Maybe while you are engaging in the things that you love, you will come across someone who loves those things too!
And let me tell ya something, dressing slutty will only get you attention from pigs! No real man likes their woman all hangin' out! If you want a gentleman, you have to dress and act like a lady. The primary reason for dating is to find your future spouse, and the qualities you want in a future spouse. So, you're gonna want someone who treats you with respect! Not someone who looks at you like a piece of meat!
Yes, it is a lot easier to dress a little seductive to get a guys attention. More chances than none you will get someones attention, but it won't be the attention you truly desire. It will be the attention that lasts for a night, and will leave you feeling empty, only to find yourself trying it again the next weekend. Being independent, focusing on school, respecting yourself, dressing and acting like a lady may not gain you the attention of every man you pass, but one day, when it matters, you will catch the one man's attention that makes no other guys attention worth it. I understand that we all want to give, feel and be loved, but that one night's attention won't make you feel anymore love than you did before. It may be easy to catch a man's eye, but the one challenge is to be the one who catches his heart and to do that will not be easy. So focus on improving yourself and the right man will come into your life when the time is right!
Be Sassy. Be Sweet. Be YOU!
To the girls out there who think they're not good enough, not special, not worthy of a good relationship.
You are SO worth it!! Maybe you have made some mistakes in your past, but those mistakes do not define who you are as a person. The past happened and there's nothing you can do to erase it, but instead of dwelling on the negative, realize they are lessons learned and grow from those experiences. It will only make you stronger.
If you are with someone who doesn't make you feel special, or someone who suppresses your personality. Don't stay with them! There is someone out there who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated!! You deserve someone who will support you and your dreams, not someone who makes you feel bad about doing something you love.
You deserve someone who will actually take you out on a real date! As in driving to pick you up, opening the car door and paying for dinner! If a man really likes you, he WILL step up to the plate to try to win you over!!! Make him work for it ;)
If you are ever in doubt, sit back and think about why you are "worth it". What have you accomplished? Paid/ worked your way through college? -Awesome! What a hard-worker! Going after a dream?! -Shows dedication! Can cook a nice meal?! -Wow looka you domesticated thing!! Whatever it is, write down what makes you "worth it" and refer back to it, because we all have those days when we question our worth. From there you begin to realize your standards are higher (that blog will be coming soon!), you should never settle!
Now, this does not necessarily have to relate with dating, it can also be for someone who has friends that bring them down instead of helping them be a better person, for someone who is working a dead end job, or for someone who simply is trying to find their way through life. You deserve to be respected because you are worth it!
Be Sassy. Be Sweet. Be You.
Yeah, that's right this one is about love. Now, I'm not exactly sure what it's like to be "in love" cause to be honest I've never been in love. But I do know what it's like to love, be loved and to see love.
watching a father hold his newborn baby for the first time.
an elderly couple holding hands during dinner.
a solider dying for his country.
driving a few hundred miles just to spend time with someone.
a young person stopping to hold the door open for an old lady.
patiently holding someone when they cry.
doing the dishes for your mom because you know it would make her happy.
coming together during a tragedy.
knowing you cannot be together, but wanting the best for that person anyway.
working that extra shift to earn money for your family.
putting others before yourself.
a father and mother coming together to properly raise their child.
forgiving someone who may have done you wrong.
understanding their side of the story before jumping to conclusions.
a soldier surprising his loved ones after being deployed.
people rushing to help when you trip and fall.
listening to *insert family member's name here* horrible singing and not saying anything negative.
knowing you would give an arm just to make sure that special someone was happy.
driving to your friends house at midnight because she's too sad to be alone.
giving a little extra tip because you know they have student loans to pay.
hundreds of youth students gathering together to praise the Lord.
taking time out of your day to help someone in need.
The world would be a more beautiful place if there was more love in our hearts. There is a lot of hate in this world, but if you love everyone you come in contact with and show them love, you will begin to see love in return.
Be Sassy. Be Sweet. Be You.
There are often times in our lives when things don't go our way. We might blame ourselves, God, our parents, our siblings, our friends.... ya get the picture, but we need to step back and look at all of the GOOD we HAVE in our lives. Things will not always turn out the way we hope, but you need to remember that it all happens for a reason. Although we may not know what that reason is at the moment, life has a funny way of working itself out. God sees the entire painting, we only see a small corner. Trust Him.
Things to be thankful for...
your family, some people have no one to call after a bad day.
your friends, some people do not have any true friends.
the house you live in, some people live under a bridge.
the bed you sleep in, some people sleep on the street.
your education, some people cannot afford to go to school.
your job, there are people who are unemployed.
your freedom, there are other countries where people are told how to live their lives.
the food that you eat, there are people that go without eating for days.
the ability to run, some people are born without legs.
your health, people die from cancer everyday.
your eyes, some people cannot see the beauty of a sunset.
your vehicle, some people have to rely on others for transportation.
Now that is just a general list of things I thought of, but each and every one of us has a special and unique list of "things to be thankful for". I challenge you to sit down and write out every thing you are truly thankful for in your life, then when you have a difficult day, come back to that list and you'll realize, your life isn't so bad after all :).
Be Sassy. Be Sweet. Be You.
Classy, sassy, but oh so sweet!