Juggling work, family, gym, friends, sleep and time for yourself is challenging. Add a romantic relationship into the equation and things get a little more hectic.
If you are currently not in a relationship my advice to you is to use this time to do something for yourself. Take time to reflect on things you’d like to improve on/accomplish such as: becoming better at your job, starting a new hobby, reading a book, attaining a flatter stomach, running a marathon, trying a new recipe—whatever it is, this is YOUR time to shine.
Before meeting my boyfriend, William, there was a long time that I spent single and I mean REALLY single. There were no guys that I spoke with on a daily basis, no one on the radar, and I had not been on a date for an entire year. Yes, you read that correctly. Up until 3 months to meeting William, it had been a year since I had gone on a date.
For the first time in my life it was just me.
There were definitely times I struggled being single because all of my friends were in serious relationships, about to get engaged, currently engaged, or married. However during those months of “me time” I learned a lot about myself, what I needed from a man and a relationship. To be honest, if it was not for that time alone I would not have been emotionally ready for a relationship.
Being single presented me with the opportunity to reflect on my past actions and tendencies, allowing me to examine who I was as an individual. Through that time of reflection I noticed that when things did not work out with a man I began to question where I went wrong. Questions like “What’s wrong with me,” “Am I not pretty enough” “Am I not good enough” consumed my mind, which in return triggered the spiral of self-blame. I took it personally, which made me absolutely miserable. All I could think about was “If I really was as great as everyone says I am, shouldn’t guys recognize that” “Why am I having such a difficult time finding someone who wants to be with me.” Ladies, this was my biggest mistake!! Let me tell you why… I did NOTHING wrong for those guys not to like me. It just wasn’t meant to be. I deserved better.
Honey, do not allow the inadequacies of a man lead you to question your self-worth. You are not the problem (I mean, unless you really did something wrong then you need to address that)!! Being single is not a bad thing. Do not allot yourself a specific period of time. Change does not happen in a day, or week. Change and improvement is a gradual process.
So enjoy the single phase of life, because before you know it you will meet someone who changes everything. Trust me!
be sassy. be sweet. be you.
Classy, sassy, but oh so sweet!